I'm so glad your daughter has you to advocate for her. When I was a very small child, my first dentist was one who specialized in children and developmentally disabled people. He was horrible and abusive. He would use rubber dams that were too big for the patient's mouth, he would shove his fingers way back into my throat, and he was really rough. My poor young mother had no idea why I was so scared to go back the second time, but then she heard him in the back telling me that if I threw up I would have to clean it up. I was four years old. She marched back there, grabbed me out of his chair and reported him to the dentistry board. He had so many complaints that they eventually took his license. General consensus was that he had specialized in children and disabled because they couldn't advocate for themselves and he could get away with his abuse. To this day, I still have anxiety every time I go to the dentist.
Oh my gosh!!! I am so sorry you got treated like that. So wrong!! I am so happy your mom stepped in. It would’ve taken a lot to NOT punch him in the face! Wonderful to hear he got his license yanked. Should’ve done jail time for abuse too!
Interesting isn’t it, that he did it because they couldn’t advocate for themselves. Pitiful, shameful and disgusting.
My daughter was punched in the stomach by a young boy once. I happened to see it from the window as he was a neighbor boy in our back yard. He ran off but I went and comforted my daughter who was only 3. Then I went over to his house (our families were friends) and confronted him. I asked him why he punched her. He said because she couldn’t talk. Her speech was very delayed too and she said very little at that age. Then he asked “how do you know I did that?” I told him that she could talk and she told me. His eyes got huge! I reinforced she just didn’t want to talk to him, but she tells me everything. 😂
Never did a mean thing to her again and I know cuz I watched like a hawk. 😂
Thanks for reading and I appreciate your comment as well. Hopefully you found some good dentists over the years even though it’s still traumatic. 😉
Great story, Sunnydaze. The other thing that drives these ninnies wacky is staying calm, which it sounds like you did. From what you said, in addition to knowing your rights, standing your ground as Jessica's mother and advocate, you stayed as cool as a cucumber. This deprives them of another kick this type loves -- and that is calling in the blue uniforms when someone becomes "disruptive."
Also, as someone with a near 20 year career in HR (and years of prior managerial experience), HIPPA has exactly nothing to do with anything in this scenario. Sheesh...I just keep shaking my head...
Yes, I did stay calm. I think that is a God thing because it would be easy to go off on these people in these situations and I really have never “lost it”. When it comes to advocating for Jessica, I stay unbelievably calm. I surprise myself even 😂. Knowing I’m doing this for someone else seems to help me stay focused, I think.
You are spot on, too. They would love nothing more than to watch me be disruptive, from their provocations, just to lead me away and tell everyone I was the bad guy. I will not bow to their manipulation either.
Isn’t it interesting the way they throw out the usual and customary verbiage because they have gotten away with it for so long!! HIPAA. They throw that around to shut everyone up…except when they were asking everyone to disclose their vaxx status and making that public information and making sure everyone in the company knew employees personal medial information, then discriminated against them for it, then fired them for it so the whole world knew they weren’t vaxxed….then it was ok to violate HIPAA. 🤦🏼♀️
We HAVE to stand up to these bullies. We just have to.
Amen. Well said. Very good parallel. I cannot believe they still pull out this shit after 3 years and its about to happen again? Or is it? I refuse to be a nail to their hammer. There is nothing like the feeling of being well armed and prepared in the face of 'the potential hypothetical'. If we all faced each challenge to come with the assurance that the absolute truth is on our side we would be unbeatable. And in the right. Thanks for a great account and reminder to not be a wishy washy weenie.
I love “I refuse to be a nail to their hammer.” 🎯 Nailed it! 😉
Even though not convinced they are going to try this crap again, I wouldn’t put it past them. They got away with so much last time that I could see them thinking they are invincible. THAT is why I wanted to encourage people ahead of time. Know your enemy. Have a plan. Decide early what the response will be. Then pray for courage. And be courageous!
I'm so glad your daughter has you to advocate for her. When I was a very small child, my first dentist was one who specialized in children and developmentally disabled people. He was horrible and abusive. He would use rubber dams that were too big for the patient's mouth, he would shove his fingers way back into my throat, and he was really rough. My poor young mother had no idea why I was so scared to go back the second time, but then she heard him in the back telling me that if I threw up I would have to clean it up. I was four years old. She marched back there, grabbed me out of his chair and reported him to the dentistry board. He had so many complaints that they eventually took his license. General consensus was that he had specialized in children and disabled because they couldn't advocate for themselves and he could get away with his abuse. To this day, I still have anxiety every time I go to the dentist.
Oh my gosh!!! I am so sorry you got treated like that. So wrong!! I am so happy your mom stepped in. It would’ve taken a lot to NOT punch him in the face! Wonderful to hear he got his license yanked. Should’ve done jail time for abuse too!
Interesting isn’t it, that he did it because they couldn’t advocate for themselves. Pitiful, shameful and disgusting.
My daughter was punched in the stomach by a young boy once. I happened to see it from the window as he was a neighbor boy in our back yard. He ran off but I went and comforted my daughter who was only 3. Then I went over to his house (our families were friends) and confronted him. I asked him why he punched her. He said because she couldn’t talk. Her speech was very delayed too and she said very little at that age. Then he asked “how do you know I did that?” I told him that she could talk and she told me. His eyes got huge! I reinforced she just didn’t want to talk to him, but she tells me everything. 😂
Never did a mean thing to her again and I know cuz I watched like a hawk. 😂
Thanks for reading and I appreciate your comment as well. Hopefully you found some good dentists over the years even though it’s still traumatic. 😉
Great story, Sunnydaze. The other thing that drives these ninnies wacky is staying calm, which it sounds like you did. From what you said, in addition to knowing your rights, standing your ground as Jessica's mother and advocate, you stayed as cool as a cucumber. This deprives them of another kick this type loves -- and that is calling in the blue uniforms when someone becomes "disruptive."
Also, as someone with a near 20 year career in HR (and years of prior managerial experience), HIPPA has exactly nothing to do with anything in this scenario. Sheesh...I just keep shaking my head...
Thank you!
Yes, I did stay calm. I think that is a God thing because it would be easy to go off on these people in these situations and I really have never “lost it”. When it comes to advocating for Jessica, I stay unbelievably calm. I surprise myself even 😂. Knowing I’m doing this for someone else seems to help me stay focused, I think.
You are spot on, too. They would love nothing more than to watch me be disruptive, from their provocations, just to lead me away and tell everyone I was the bad guy. I will not bow to their manipulation either.
Isn’t it interesting the way they throw out the usual and customary verbiage because they have gotten away with it for so long!! HIPAA. They throw that around to shut everyone up…except when they were asking everyone to disclose their vaxx status and making that public information and making sure everyone in the company knew employees personal medial information, then discriminated against them for it, then fired them for it so the whole world knew they weren’t vaxxed….then it was ok to violate HIPAA. 🤦🏼♀️
We HAVE to stand up to these bullies. We just have to.
Amen. Well said. Very good parallel. I cannot believe they still pull out this shit after 3 years and its about to happen again? Or is it? I refuse to be a nail to their hammer. There is nothing like the feeling of being well armed and prepared in the face of 'the potential hypothetical'. If we all faced each challenge to come with the assurance that the absolute truth is on our side we would be unbeatable. And in the right. Thanks for a great account and reminder to not be a wishy washy weenie.
Thank you!
I love “I refuse to be a nail to their hammer.” 🎯 Nailed it! 😉
Even though not convinced they are going to try this crap again, I wouldn’t put it past them. They got away with so much last time that I could see them thinking they are invincible. THAT is why I wanted to encourage people ahead of time. Know your enemy. Have a plan. Decide early what the response will be. Then pray for courage. And be courageous!
I love this
I’m learning to be a better “advocate “
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Excellent! That is great news! 🙌
Way to say it like it is babe
Awwww, thanks honey. 😊 I’m so thankful you are walking beside me in all this, keeping me out of jail 😂 😉